BLACKLIST

these are things that are relatively distressing for me, and can trigger me if sprung upon me unexpectedly
this isn't a "never bring this up around me EVER" list, but rather a "give me a heads up, please?" list

if we're on discord, please spoiler any associated text/images and give a general heads up!
anywhere off discord, just a standard trigger tag (eg: " tw trigger topic // ") is enough!

i'll participate in discussions as i feel capable. thanks for your consideration and care!

please tag / warn for . . .

• CULTS, BOTH RELIGIOUS AND PSUEDO-RELIGIOUS
  this is a big one for me. this is especially applies if the discussion involves making light of, joking about, or not taking cults seriously. this also involves joking about wanting to start a cult or glorifying/romanticizing cults.
• CHRISTIANITY, BIBLE THUMPING, EVANGELICALISM
  this is also incredibly important. other religions are fine, this only applies to christianity. this also ties into the above topic. any sort of christian discussion falls under this, especially if it's serious in any way. this includes anything like "god is watching", worship, or christian propaganda. phrases like "oh my god" don't count under this, as i say them all the time myself!
• CANNIBALISM
  this mainly only applies when it involves making light of it, romanticization, glorification, or treating cannibalism like an allegory for love/sex/whatever people are doing these days.

please . . .

• DON'T DIRECT VAGUES OR VAGUENESS TOWARDS ME OR TALK BEHIND MY BACK
  if you have something you want to say, say it to me! please communicate and be direct. there is no way i'll be able to tell if you're upset with me if you don't tell me! this is just common courtesy, but it's also a very bad trigger (PTSD + OCD) for me to be left in the dark and have things held above my head and not be told exactly what i'm doing wrong, or what's going on.
• LET ME KNOW IF YOU WANT TO CUT TIES / SOFTBLOCK / ETC
  again, another PTSD/OCD trigger for me. it's totally okay if you need space. i'd appreciate the chance to talk to it and see if it's a problem we can resolve together, but if not, i appreciate the courtesy of a heads up just so i don't freak out. i'm likely going to reach out and ask why as it is, so why not save both of us the extra step and let me know ahead of time?